Skill Building “I” Statements
A fight could result from each of the situations below.
By using an “I” statement, you may be able to resolve the conflict peacefully.
If using any part of the “I” statement feels “fake” or “phony,” write out whatever you are comfortable saying.
Just remember at all times to be respectful and specific about both your feelings and how you would like to see the problem solved.
Your sister’s playing music so loud, it’s interfering with your telephone conversation in the next room.
I feel, (blank)
Because, (blank)
When you, (blank)
I would like it if, (blank)
You’re sitting at the lunch table waiting for your friends.
At the last minute, they decide to sit with another group instead.
I feel, (blank)
Because, (blank)
When you, (blank)
I would like it if, (blank)
Think of a recent situation when you were in conflict with someone else.
How did you handle it?
What did you say or do?
Would using an “I” statement improve the way things turned out?
Try it here:
I feel, (blank)
Because, (blank)
When you, (blank)
I would like it if, (blank)
Lesson Progress
- Intro to Conflict Resolution
- How People Behave in Conflict Situations
- Other Characteristics of Aggressive People
- The ABC'S of Conflict Resolution
- Other Important Tips
- Skill Building "I" Statements
- Skill Building: Reflective Listening
- More Pointers on Talking and Listening
- Listening In Conflict Situations
- Practice Skill Building “I” Statements
- Skill Building: Reflective Listening